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Over the last decade I’ve invested a lot of time, energy and money in various education, “personal development” and “wealth creation” programs – and yes, I say this with “inverted commas” and double fingers in the air, because I know it can sound a little bit seminar-junkie-ish…
However, I am an eternal student and I am constantly looking to grow and evolve my self so it’s a part f my process.
I like to think I am a lot more discerning now…
BUT, over the years, there’s one thing I have heard OVER and OVER from my so called teachers and “gurus.”
There’s Nothing Wrong With The Formula…There’s Something Wrong With You
See, time and time again, I would invest in a program, I would follow the steps and the formula and the rules – religiously. And time and time again, these processes and formulas just would not work for me. Or I really had to force and push the results to come – and ended up hating the process.
And my mentor would tell me, time and time again…
- It’s not the formula. The formula works.
- It’s you. There’s something wrong with you. (You’re scared. You’re not doing it right. You’re lying to your self…)
I call bull shite!
Yes. The Formula Works. Or Does It?
The formula works. In theory.
If it works for one person, then it works.
If there are certain steps that you have to follow to get a result, then it works.
If more than one person can follow the formula and get it to work then it definitely works.
Except when it doesn’t.
Because here’s the thing…
The Formula Will NEVER Work For Every One
Let me give you an example.
In 2009 I was chasing the money – I admit it. I purchased a “day trading” program from a very successful trader showing me how I could replace my income with a few clicks of a button and a few hours a day.
And they had students giving testimonials of how they would be cooking dinner and have their laptop set up in the background and click a few buttons when they needed to, and the money was pouring in.
For 6 months I practiced religiously for 3-4 hours a day, following the system. Tracking my results. On paper, I was a success.
When I decided to go “live” with real money, my first trade was a disaster. Every thing I learned went out the window. I did the opposite of what I was supposed to. My emotions and my beliefs and my “stuff” about money came up. The formula had no way to address THAT!
The Formula Was Right…There Was Something Wrong With Me
Or so I was told.
However now I know this is total bull shite. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with me.
So Why Did I Fail Where They Succeeded?
There’s a single overriding reason for this.
Trading the share market is so far out of alignment that it would never work for me. That particular formula or strategy would never work for ME. It will work for other people, but not for ME.
Those success stories loved the share market. They loved sitting in front of a computer watching graphs go up and down. I didn’t. I was doing it for the money. As a means to an end.
When my true desire was to head in a different direction.
It didn’t matter how long I sat in front of that computer – that formula was never going to work. The stress and the process for making money was NEVER going to align with who I am. Even though I did not fully understand it at the time, I now realise I need to be doing something that actually adds value, and makes a difference. That’s who I am.
Making money out of thin air adds no value and is so not who I am – it was never going to work for me.
But that does not mean there’s something wrong with me!
There Is No One Size Fits All Formula
And any one who tells you there is, is lying.
Every human being is different.
Every human being has a tonne of variables – your personality, skills, talents. Your likes and dislikes. Your goals, desires, ambitions.
There is no one size fits all.
There is one size fits some.
And when you can find that for you, it’s awesome!
But if you’re doing something for the money, on the side or as a means to an end…
Chances are it’s not the right formula FOR YOU!
Instead, Find Frameworks Not Formulas
A framework is a much looser structure. It’s something that allows you to pick and choose the pieces and weave your self around it.
It guides you in a structure and at the same time allows you to explore and express your self.
It doesn’t force you to be someone you’re not.
It encourages you to be exactly who you are.
And it totally aligns with who you are and what you stand for.
- Working at McDonalds – is a universal formula that requires you to conform within it, eliminate your individuality, wear a uniform and be like every one else. For a vegetarian, they’re going to struggle with this formula…
- Working at Google – provides a framework that creates and encourages variety and allows you to totally be your self, express and explore your skills and abilities and to fit within it where you fit best. There’s going to be a place for creative designers, IT geeks, and vegetarians…
There are times for frameworks and times for formulas.
Just make sure when you’re getting into formulas, they are totally aligned with who you are and what you stand for.