Like most years this decade, this year took some very interesting, unplanned turns.
And while I didn’t quite get to where I set out to, in the last few weeks it’s all finally come together.
I’ve finally seen some big pieces of the puzzle fall neatly into place.
And there’s one big theme coming through in every thing.
That’s so simple, and so bleeding obvious.
Here’s the lessons that helps me see it.
01 – Work With People Who Want It
I did a lot of teaching in different areas this year, with a range of very different people and students.
And I discovered that no matter how good I was, how prepared, knowledgeable and committed. No matter how interesting I made my classes and content…
You cannot teach someone who does not want to learn. Who does not want to be there. Who has no interest.
And even if you try to help them figure out why, if they’re not interested, you can’t.
It takes three.
It takes you, the student and the work to be aligned with one another to create magic.
You can’t keep changing and morphing and manipulating your self trying to give them want they want. To make them want you and what you’ve got. It’s exhausting.
LESSON For Teachers – Be who you are, do what you do best the way you do it best, and find the people who want you and what you’ve got.
LESSON For Students -Only work with people you love, whose work inspires and aligns with you.
Work with people you love who love you and your work. That’s alignment.
02 – Do What Works For You
I’ve circled around for years with different gurus and strategies and techniques and tactics – in business, and every area of my life.
Pushing, forcing and trying to make them work.
Because they worked for someone else – the expert, the guru – they “should” also work for me. That’s what they keep telling me.
If I just do the work. And get through my fear. Oh yeah, and hustle. And push. And force. Then I’ll crush it!
Turns out, I do the work. And push and force. I hate to hustle. I don’t like doing a lot of that stuff. It’s not fun. And it’s not working for me.
So how long do you flog a dead horse?
When you could be doing something that you enjoy. That actually works for you and gives you the result you want? If only you took some time to find it.
Why on earth would you do any thing else?
LESSON – Stop listening to every body else and trying to force things to work for you. Find what you love and do that instead.
Do only what really works for you. That’s alignment.
03 – Get To Know Your Self First
I reckon I’ve been working on my self, consciously, for a decade now.
I’ve read books, done programs, attended seminars, listened to the experts and the gurus – trying to figure out why I was the way I was and why some things didn’t always work for me.
I’ve got to know who I am a little bit more every year.
Some of it I loved and still do, some not so much. Some things I resisted or ignored.
But this year every thing shifted to a different level.
I started to accept things about me that I previously had not.
The things that people told me were “wrong,” that I had to overcome, change, or conquer.
I started saying no to things that didn’t work. And yes to a lot more.
I started listening to me. Trusting my self.
And living to what I truly want. And I realised that’s the only way to live.
And there’s no going back.
Get to know your self first – and listen to what you really want. That’s alignment.
04 – It’s ALL About Alignment. ALL Of It
There’s a pattern here. It’s alignment.
I’ve been working with this concept quite a bit but this year, I got alignment at completely different, deeper level.
When you know your self, deeply, truly, and understand who you are, what you stand for and what you love.
And you start to make decisions aligned with that – because it’s the only decision to make.
Holy crap. Every thing changes. Every thing.
You start playing a very different game.
Align your self and every thing will fall into place. That’s alignment.
2017 was about alignment. About all the
2018 will be about…
More alignment, for sure. In every thing. But beyond that, we shall see.
It’s going to unfold exactly the way it needs to. That’s alignment.