“I’m supposed to have written this blog yesterday.
I mean, I committed to Tuesday’s. And I’ve been sending it out on Tuesday’s for a while now.
But it’s Thursday.
It’s late. Life got in the way.
Am I letting people down?”
That’s What The Voices Will Say
If you let them.
That’s the stuff you can listen to. If you choose.
That other people might have told us.
That we might have told our selves.
That we’re not good enough.
That we’ve failed. Done badly.
But have we really?
Have We Really Done Bad?
Who sets the deadline?
Who makes the commitment?
When you’re creating your life…
YOU’RE creating your life.
You’re making up the rules.
YOU set the deadline.
YOU make the commitment.
So if you can decide how and when you’re doing something.
Then you can decide how and when to do it differently. And that is perfectly OK>
You Can Undecide
You can decide and undecide what’s enough.
The experts say the perfect blog should be 1,000 words. 1,500.
But sometimes they don’t want to be.
Sometimes they’re 800. Sometimes more. Sometimes less.
Does it really matter?
What’s Perfect For One Is Not For Others
Some people like consistency.
They like your blog to land in their inbox at 2pm every Tuesday.
“They’ll get mad if it doesn’t.
They won’t like you any more.”
That’s what the voices might say. That’s what you might tell your self.
That’s what you might choose to listen to and believe.
It’s up to you. It’s really is.
It’s Really Up To You
At the end of the day, this is your life.
You have to figure out what is going to work for you.
And you can choose something for now.
And un choose it down the track.
In the case of this blog….
I made the commitment to my self and my readers to write every Tuesday.
That’s what they’ve come to expect.
This week it’s late. It is. Stuff happened and got in the way. There’s no changing that now. It just is.
So I choose for that to be OK.
And I communicate that. And I learn.
And I re-make the commitment for next week.
And I re-think my time management t make sure this won’t happen again.
But if it does, then I’ll choose to be OK with that too.
But What About The Big Things?
The things that really matter?
What about the deadlines? The commitments?
At work? To other people?
What about the stuff you have to do?
The thing is, you’re human. You can only do what you can do.
Make your commitments and do your very best.
But when stuff happens, stuff happens.
Communicate, let people know what’s going on, and choose for it to be OK.
Choose for it to be OK that you’re not perfect or superhuman… all the time.
And then re-commit to when it will happen, and keep every one in the loop.
Do The Best That You Can Do
If you know you’ve done that, then every thing’s fine.
If you choose for it to be fine.
Because really, ultimately, in the scheme of the universe, the world…
In the scheme of your life, in five, ten, twenty, years…
Will it really matter?
Will it matter that my blog post was 2 days late on a deadline that I made up for my self?
In fact, I don’t really think it matters even now.
Unless I say it does.