I spent my 20’s doing my best to figure out how to fit in, and be accepted.
It involved a lot of partying, playing and attempting to be someone I was not.
I spent most of my 30’s feeling like there was something “missing” in my life, and trying to figure out what that was.
That involved a lot of seminars, gurus, educational programs, get-rich-quick strategies…and a shit-load of “what-not-to-do’s.”
I’ve started my 40’s with the realization that there’s no need to “fit-in” or be accepted, and there’s nothing missing. There never has been.
How Come It Took So Long?
How come it took me so long?
An interesting question indeed.
I would consider my self relatively intelligent, well-educated.
I used to describe my self as driven, focused, committed. Not so much now, but I definitely had strong character traits to dive me to “success.”
And yet, despite career, money, things and stuff, it never felt very successful.
Why Doesn’t Success Feel Like Success?
Often we set our selves goals and milestones to achieve, to obtain.
We strive and struggle and push and force our selves to get there, and then when we do, we often wonder why the heck we wanted it in the first place.
Popularity. A good job. Bigger home. New car.
Regardless of what stage of life you’re at, when you’re striving for something OUTside your self, you’re never going to feel success when you’ve got it.
It’s never going to feel like enough.
You’re always going to want MORE.
Why Do We Want More?
We want more because we’ve been trained to want more. To aspire. To reach. For something bigger, something greater.
For some thing someone else has, that you yet haven’t.
A bigger big screen TV. A bigger wardrobe.
You’ve been trained to want and desire, and never be happy with what you’ve got.
By media. TV. Magazines. The internet.
Every single day, you’re bombarded with signs and signals and messages telling you that you’re not happy, until…
You buy a bigger car. Get a thinner body.
Then You Start To Wake Up
After years of striving for success, and trying to fill a void that always seems to be there, you start to realize that you’re not going to get it from more things and more stuff.
You’re done. Over it.
That stuff is just a distraction.
Taking you away from what really matters.
What already exists to fill that “void” you think you’ve got.
You start to stop shopping, stop striving, and give your self space for contemplation, and inner reflection.
You Start To Ask Some Bigger Questions
Who am I?
Why am I here?
What’s the point of all of this?
You’re frustrated. Searching for answers in a world that does not make sense.
In a world that seems slightly mad.
You search, finding little pieces of the puzzle. Following the signs.
Putting it all together. Confused, but curious.
Knowing that you cannot go back. You can only go forward.
Seeing more and more of what’s really true.
Peeling back the layers of the façade that’s held you back for so long.
Knowing, with absolute certainty, that each day, every step, takes you one step closer to finding that missing piece.
Finding that ”thing” that you’ve been looking for all your life.
That’s actually been there all along.
And one day, you wake up, and actually see it, feel it, know it for the first time.
Say Hello To Your Soul